For over a century, compliance has been considered central to the learning process. We tell students when to sit, when to stand, when to move and when and how to do assignments. Students who do not comply face consequences — both immediate and long-lasting. It’s a deeply rooted tradition that communicates that students must be strictly disciplined in order to learn. At last count, the Department of Education reported that 2.5 million students received one or more school suspensions in 2017-2018.
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Today’s economy calls for something vastly different – heck, an appreciation for humanity, for self actualization, calls for something different. Many educators are leading the charge away from the old-school compliance-and-punishment model to focus more on building bridges to learning that include social-emotional learning, a focus on engagement, real-world applicability, and relationship-building. We caught up with some of the most familiar personalities of TikTok’s #TeacherTok to weigh in on the absolutely transformative, awesome power of connection over compliance.
Meet Hannah-Gio Sinclair AKA @senoraxamora on TikTok
Compliance vs. Connection:
Hannah-Gio Sinclair, M.Ed., is a high school Spanish teacher in San José, CA, but she’s also an outspoken TikTok educator with 97,000 followers. In Sinclair’s classroom, rules are secondary to relationships. “In my opinion, you can have all the rules and procedures in place, but you don’t have anything until you build relationships with your students,” she says. “From day one, my main goal is to get to know as much about each and every student as possible. When students know you care about them and when you have mutual respect for one another, they’ll do anything for you and wouldn’t even think about misbehaving.
I always tell my students that I’m there to work with them, not against them. We foster a learning community of trust, positivity, and respect. Instead of having a long list of rules that are rooted in compliance and are just going to keep students out of the classroom if they are broken, I find it is way more effective to talk about clear expectations and build rapport. Lastly, amongst everything else, establishing an open line of communication, building relationships based on trust, and genuine interest in their lives and personalities are what has completely transformed my classroom management for the better.”
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Definitely Smile Before December
“Every year, I overhear veteran teachers telling other new teachers ‘Don’t smile until December to let them know you mean business.’ Or ‘I’m not here to be their friend.’ Of course I’m not here to be their friend, but that doesn’t mean I can’t care for them or get to know the in’s and out’s of their life.”
Ms. Sinclair’s Connection Activity
“Something that I do at the beginning of the year on the first day of school is have my students write a letter to me using the prompt ‘I wish my teacher knew….’ They have as long as they need to write anything and everything about themselves. Some write about their hobbies, music, friends, family, sports teams they love; some even open up to me about their personal lives. After, I take them home and read every single one, and I make it a point to mention one thing each student mentioned in their letter when I see them throughout the next few classes.
One year, when I mentioned to a student something I read in their letter, they looked at me with complete shock. Their eyes were wide and their jaws dropped. They asked ‘You actually read all of those?’ I responded, ‘Of course! It’s my favorite activity I do all year!’ The student replied, ‘Wow, I’ve never had a teacher that cared enough to get to know their students before. I can tell you’re a really good teacher.’ Fighting back tears, that’s when it really hit me these kids just want to be noticed and cared for more than anything else. Public school systems are so focused on trying to get students to comply, turn in their homework, to follow the rules, that they don’t stop to think about all the lives of the individuals that are sitting in front of them for 180 days of the year. Stop and think what’s going on outside of the classroom because it most definitely has a direct correlation to classroom performance and behavior.”
Meet Ty Tiger, Teacher, Author and Coach from Beaufort, SC AKA @kindasortateacher on TikTok
The Relationship Bridge
Ty Tiger is known on TikTok for sharing relatable and funny teacher experiences, as well as helpful tips on becoming a teacherpreneur to her nearly 48,000 followers. She’s also an advocate for using human connection as a bridge to learning. “The idea of building relationships is one that is often touched on in PD, but seldom carries over in true practice once the hustle and bustle of the school year begins. When the year starts, it is essential that teachers take the time to build relationships with their students; get to know them, find out what they enjoy, what they dislike; take the time to allow them to settle in and get comfortable prior to pushing content at them. I know some [educators] think students don’t need to ‘like’ them to be a successful teacher, but that’s far from the truth. If a student likes you, they will work their darndest during their time with you.”
Trust Is Earned
“Many people struggle with how to build these relationships early on. They cannot be forced, so I started thinking about things that I would feel comfortable talking to strangers about. I took these ideas and began creating digital resources that encompassed these very topics to get the kids not only engaged, but comfortable to chat. This included ice breakers with interactive elements where students would build their Netflix library, share their favorite apps and websites, add their favorite snack items to a virtual grocery store belt — and the conversations that can come off of these simple things alone are endless. Teachers find commonalities with students and start building meaningful relationships day one without the typical forced ‘What is your favorite color?’ activities that we once filled out as kids.”
Keep It Real with Rules
When it comes to classroom management, Tiger thinks rules can be a true learning tool if done right. “Rules are a hard one. As a teacher, I have lots of rules to follow. I would be lying to my students if I told them I never broke any myself. In school, students are learning the ropes of what rules are non-negotiables, what rules can be bent, how to walk a fine line while walking in their truest form. And to walk in one’s truest form, not all rules can always be followed in their entirety. That’s a lesson it’s best to navigate in high school — not as an adult. Rules are practice for real life and once you have built relationships with your students, it’s so nice to be able to keep it real with them and talk about these things. In addition, once you have established that solid rapport with students, when it’s time to buckle down and be serious, they’ll follow even the most eye-rollable rules for you.”
Meet Garett Talcott, Kindergarten Teacher, Redmond, WA AKA @vividmichael on TikTok
Engagement Is the Cornerstone
Garett Talcott is a kindergarten teacher in Seattle, who’s become internet and TV famous for his remote learning virtual field trips and for going above and beyond to engage and dazzle his young students from the corner of his kitchen. In his now viral Tik Tok videos, watched by over 101,000 followers and filmed by fiancé Michael, you can hear the totally-excited little student voices on the laptop he totes to places like the top of the Space Needle, the zoo, or to meet the Seattle Mariners mascot — all live during class. For Talcott, engagement is the pathway to learning. “It all comes down to engagement and students wanting to come back for more — this is the cornerstone for learning. But what is engagement? Is it bright colors and loud sounds? Sure, visuals and spectacle can be a part of it. Is it the camaraderie and community from a class family? Yes, a shared interactive experience is unforgettable. But I truly believe that what makes students come back for more is the indelible experience of feeling something — connection, emotions, joy, laughter, wonder – and realizing you’re sharing that experience with others at the same time. You can’t forget that ever, and you want to come back for more. And the cherry on top is that you learned reading, writing, math, science and made a beautiful self-portrait in the process.”
Love Makes the Learning Go ’Round
“Love is the foundation of my classroom. Love of self. Love of others. Love of our living planet. Love of learning. It all comes down to love. My partner Michael captured Tik Toks of my remote classroom where you can actually hear student responses to various activities – and I wish I could share them all. One activity I loved was where we were doing a Magic Milk science experiment and infused it with Love of Self questions … I asked students what they loved about themselves and as they each called out answers – ‘I’m fast,’ ‘I’m making friends,’ ‘I can read’ – I would trigger the colored drops to blossom into beautiful expansive shapes on the white milk canvas – ultimately leaving a beautiful, colorful, and connected piece of art. And that was the lesson – all the things YOU love about yourself add to our world and make our world beautiful, just like this magic milk canvas.”
Building Emotional Skills for Life
“Incorporating SEL into my classroom allows for students to understand who they are along with their own variety of feelings and emotions. I teach students to build an invisible backpack of SEL tools they can use throughout life – and as a foundation for education. It’s important for students to know that it’s okay to feel, that feelings are normal, and how we handle them makes us stronger and who we are as a person. Relationship-building is so important as it can be the key thing that determines whether their year is successful or not. A classroom and a school does need rules and structure, but if these are grounded in love, and students understand how they benefit the classroom and each person including themselves, then it just becomes part of the essence of community and just part of the foundation for the fun and learning they want to have.”